Jeremy Greer
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radiantfractureOf all the things to be grieving right now, this is a weird personal parasocial one. You have been warned.
I would've first started listening to the podcast Monster of the Week in 2019 when the Destiel Event rekindled my interest in watching the final season of Supernatural.
It was terrible! But Monster of the Week was absolutely excellent. Hosts Chris Mosher and Jeremy Greer were both straight guys, and the first thing you noticed was the immense sweetness and inclusiveness of these two dudes, and the second thing you noticed was that they were obscenely funny.
It's difficult to describe just how likeable I found them. Hilarious, silly, critical but appreciative, and they had this great arc where they started out skeptical of Destiel and gradually came around to "no, that is definitely a real thing that is happening."
Strong parasocial vibes. I would listen to them when I fell asleep. That kind of thing.
When Monster of the Week was ending, I discovered that Chris and Jeremy had a whole raft of podcasts on different series, often taking up shows that had strong queer-baiting vibes or big queer fandoms (ex. Merlin). Most recently they have been doing an X-Files show, Non Human Biologics.
But even better, last fall Jeremy and Mary Vigouroux (from a different Supernatural podcast) formed Rude Eats, a Hannibal rewatch show. In some ways, the platonic ideal of a podcast for me, because Mary brings an academic as well as a fannish lens to the conversation. I even joined the Discord.
(Aside: The second season theme song is "Cannibal," an incredible takeoff on Chappell Roan's "Casual." I know there's a recording someplace, but you can hear it in the opening of this video.
A sample:
Now we're knee deep in my broken psyche
And you're eating my friends
(You're a cannibal now)
What meat were you feeding to me
at our dinner parties?
(Am I a cannibal now?)
Anyway.)
* * * * * *
Maybe a year ago? Maybe more -- Jeremy announced on MoTW that he had cancer. He would report on it periodically. He was honest, self-effacing, generous. It sounded like hell. His voice got hoarse. He went through treatment and then there was a break when we all hoped it was over. And then more treatment.
First Non Human Biologics ran out of episodes, and then Rude Eats, and then there were some optimistic updates on Discord and Bluesky, and then no updates for weeks.
I have checked the Discord periodically, mostly to see if Jeremy and Mary were going to release the audio from their live watch of the Season 2 finale. And of course I worried, but I also thought. Well, what you always think. There has to be more time.
They had to finish the third season of Hannibal. I need to hear Mary freak out over the series finale and Jeremy laugh with delight about it. And then they had to find something even more queer to talk about.
And now there just isn't. Jeremy is in hospice and the joyful ongoing interwoven conversation of his work is ending, all this work he did for sheer delight (and a little cash, but he never quit his day job).
I posted to the Discord as best I could, how Jeremy's work has meant a lot to me -- his intellectual and fannish delight in the shows he talked about, and the generosity of spirit with which he approaches everything. His deep affectionate allyship. I don't want his story to be over yet.
I hate this. I'm glad he's getting good care. His wife and Mary very kindly gave us the email address for his Skylight photo frame.
I mean, look, he didn't know me and I didn't know him; I just enjoyed overhearing his conversations with other people. But I sent a photo in case it would be nice for him and for his friends to see it as part of a lot of photos, that proof that his life matters to people.
Because I am a big loser, my photo is of the (very wrinkled) front of my Y Yo A Ti shirt, which slogan is the deepest of deep Destiel cuts. But in context it means "I love you, too" and I thought he would like the joke.
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I would've first started listening to the podcast Monster of the Week in 2019 when the Destiel Event rekindled my interest in watching the final season of Supernatural.
It was terrible! But Monster of the Week was absolutely excellent. Hosts Chris Mosher and Jeremy Greer were both straight guys, and the first thing you noticed was the immense sweetness and inclusiveness of these two dudes, and the second thing you noticed was that they were obscenely funny.
It's difficult to describe just how likeable I found them. Hilarious, silly, critical but appreciative, and they had this great arc where they started out skeptical of Destiel and gradually came around to "no, that is definitely a real thing that is happening."
Strong parasocial vibes. I would listen to them when I fell asleep. That kind of thing.
When Monster of the Week was ending, I discovered that Chris and Jeremy had a whole raft of podcasts on different series, often taking up shows that had strong queer-baiting vibes or big queer fandoms (ex. Merlin). Most recently they have been doing an X-Files show, Non Human Biologics.
But even better, last fall Jeremy and Mary Vigouroux (from a different Supernatural podcast) formed Rude Eats, a Hannibal rewatch show. In some ways, the platonic ideal of a podcast for me, because Mary brings an academic as well as a fannish lens to the conversation. I even joined the Discord.
(Aside: The second season theme song is "Cannibal," an incredible takeoff on Chappell Roan's "Casual." I know there's a recording someplace, but you can hear it in the opening of this video.
A sample:
Now we're knee deep in my broken psyche
And you're eating my friends
(You're a cannibal now)
What meat were you feeding to me
at our dinner parties?
(Am I a cannibal now?)
Anyway.)
* * * * * *
Maybe a year ago? Maybe more -- Jeremy announced on MoTW that he had cancer. He would report on it periodically. He was honest, self-effacing, generous. It sounded like hell. His voice got hoarse. He went through treatment and then there was a break when we all hoped it was over. And then more treatment.
First Non Human Biologics ran out of episodes, and then Rude Eats, and then there were some optimistic updates on Discord and Bluesky, and then no updates for weeks.
I have checked the Discord periodically, mostly to see if Jeremy and Mary were going to release the audio from their live watch of the Season 2 finale. And of course I worried, but I also thought. Well, what you always think. There has to be more time.
They had to finish the third season of Hannibal. I need to hear Mary freak out over the series finale and Jeremy laugh with delight about it. And then they had to find something even more queer to talk about.
And now there just isn't. Jeremy is in hospice and the joyful ongoing interwoven conversation of his work is ending, all this work he did for sheer delight (and a little cash, but he never quit his day job).
I posted to the Discord as best I could, how Jeremy's work has meant a lot to me -- his intellectual and fannish delight in the shows he talked about, and the generosity of spirit with which he approaches everything. His deep affectionate allyship. I don't want his story to be over yet.
I hate this. I'm glad he's getting good care. His wife and Mary very kindly gave us the email address for his Skylight photo frame.
I mean, look, he didn't know me and I didn't know him; I just enjoyed overhearing his conversations with other people. But I sent a photo in case it would be nice for him and for his friends to see it as part of a lot of photos, that proof that his life matters to people.
Because I am a big loser, my photo is of the (very wrinkled) front of my Y Yo A Ti shirt, which slogan is the deepest of deep Destiel cuts. But in context it means "I love you, too" and I thought he would like the joke.
§rf§
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Date: 2025-07-02 06:43 am (UTC)I am glad you have been able to send it to him, and not just post it in his memory.
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Date: 2025-07-02 05:24 pm (UTC)I grieve with you
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Date: 2025-07-02 10:48 pm (UTC)I laughed at the t-shirt joke. It sounds like a perfect photo to have sent.
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